Welcome to series #5 Don’t Smother
One of the hardest things a parent will ever do, is to let go. What I mean by that is ” don’t smother!”
We need to prepare our kids to leave the nest.
I think parents lose more sleep during the teenage years than they ever did when their child was an infant.
We wonder if we did the right thing by letting them go to the mall with their friends or drive a car for the first time by themselves.
With all of the crime and violence in the news today, we tend to want to keep our kids home, under our watchful eye, to know that they are safe.
As our kids become teens, they start wanting their independence and we must give it to them.
The overprotective parent may have the peace of mind knowing that their child is safe and secure with them, but what they don’t realize is that they are harming their kids.
If a child is never allowed to apply what you have instilled in them from early on, then they won’t know how to react on their own in difficult situations.
We have to trust that we have given our kids all of the tools that they need to survive in this cruel world and then let them use those tools for themselves.
The parents that smother end up robbing their kids of self confidence. They are basically telling their teen that they don’t trust them to make the right decisions. We need to let them face challenges on their own without any interference from us. The more our kids are able to do on their own, the better their self esteem will be.
Sometimes it is difficult to distinguish between being overprotective and guiding your child. I think that it is good to let them have room to make their own mistakes but be their to help them when they need it.
We need to put our trust in God that he will give us strength to let go as he puts a hedge of protection around our child.
The Bible says that we are to teach our kids without frustrating them:
Colossians 3:21 Fathers, do not exasperate your children, that they may not lose heart.
We are to teach them and then trust that they will make the right choices:
Proverbs 1:8-9 Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck.
Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.
We are to put our faith in God, that he will protect us and our children:
Psalms 121:7 The LORD will keep you from all harm– he will watch over your life.
Genesis 28:15 I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.”
I love this quote by Lady Bird Johnson, former U.S. first lady:
“Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them.”