Welcome to the first series in Are you preparing your child for the real world?.
Raising a child is one of the most rewarding things you can do. But I also think it is one of the most difficult things you will ever do.
I always hear people say ( and I must confess, I have even said it a few times myself) ” kids don’t come with instruction books”. That is not entirely true. The Bible gives us explicit instructions on how to raise our kids.
The first thing we are to do, is to set a good example for our kids:
In Titus 2:6-7 it says to encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity and dignity.
* To do this they need to see us having a relationship with the Lord. They need to see us doing our daily devotions, reading our Bibles, and praying often. They need to know that we do not make any plans for Sunday until after church services.
* They need to know that we love our spouses. We need to show love and respect to each other. We should not argue in front of the kids and we should never talk about the other parent in a negative way.
* They need to know how to treat others. We need to always treat others kindly. We should be patient, forgiving and loving towards others. We need to be practicing the Golden Rule, Matthew 7:12 says in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
We are also instructed to teach our children about God:
We need to make sure that our kids know the Lord! We should be teaching them how to pray. We should be teaching them the Bible stories and encouraging them to memorize Bible verses.
Deuteronomy 11:18-19 tells us to fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
And Proverbs 22:6 says to train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
The Bible also tells us that we need to correct and discipline our kids:
Discipline is teaching a child how to behave and letting them know what is expected of them. We learn in 2 Timothy 3:16 that all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.
And we see in Proverbs 27:19 that you are to disipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.
We have to be very careful in the way we teach and discipline and the Bible gives us guidelines for that. Ephesians 6:4 says fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
And Colossians 3:21 warns us, fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.
And lastly but certainly not the least, the Bible tells us to love our children:
To really love our kids is to nurture them, teach them, and tell them that we love them. But be careful not to mistake loving your child for indulging them.
Titus 2:4 Encourages us to train the younger women to love their husbands and children.
If we can show others love and kindness, it will reflect on our children. They will not only feel loved but give love.
I just love ( no pun intended ) 1 Corinthians 13, the love chapter.
Verse 4 tells us that Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
And verse 13 teaches us that now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Remember, children are a blessing from God, so let’s raise them up to be a Child of God.
We can find instructions in the Bible to help us deal with all of the issues involved in raising kids. Here is a link to Raising Olives. She has a wonderful article about a training Bible. Check out her blog and she tells you how you can get one of these Bibles.
If you did not read why I decided to start this series, you can find it here.
Have a blessed day!